It's Getting Hot In Here

It's official STL summer is most definetly here and blazing it's heat upon our streets. And I am sure most of you are trying to stay cool and away from the heat. Sure watching t.v. together could be something to do, but here at suiteSTL we encourage you guys to get out an enjoy STL. We will pick several little spots for you and yours to just chill and enjoy each other and nature of course

The Japanese Garden at the Missouri Botanical Garden is absolutely beautiful. It's really a serene and romantic enviroment. The garden is meant to be peaceful, pure, and of clear harmony. You have to be a lover of nature to enjoy the beauty within the 4 acres. Now what you do once you get there is on you, but please know that St. Louis City will lock you up if you go to far. Lol

Between The Sheets

Ok I will admit when I saw this book on my friend's table I kind of laughed. I asked her where she got it from and she stated she wasn't sure but she had never read it. Well I will read anything especially if it has my favorite past time subject. Not sex lil nasty people MEN, well ok maybe it is sex. lol. Anyway I was surprised at how funny and real this book was. I told a few friends about the book and they all passed stating that the man is gay so what does he know. Well he knows that he is a man and it still feels good no matter who your partner is. There are several chapters that I would recommend in here. But my favorite would have to fall under You Know How to Whistle, Don't You? Just Put Your Lips Together and... Just trust me this time, and read this book, if you don't like it then I will arrange for Jami B to give you guys a special treat. (this has not been discussed with her so if you mention this and she looks at you sideways don't wonder why)

Hypotheticaly Of Course

(over a bottle of Grey Goose some friends and I (cryssrenee) started talking about relationships, all kinds of questions were coming out. We were celebrating her 30th bday and we realized that we are still clueless about men and relationships just as we were at 15 or 16)

U MEET THIS GUY, HE IS PERFECT AND YOU ARE REALLY FEELING HIM. ALTHOUGH HE IS KIND OF A PRUDE YOU GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT AND GIVE HIM A CHANCE. U NOTICE THAT HE IS A LOT DIFFERENT THAN OTHER MEN THAT YOU HAVE DATED. YOU KIND OF CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE TO FIT INTO THAT OF A STEPFORD WIFE. HOWEVER, YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE DYING ON THE INSIDE BECAUSE THIS IS NOT WHO YOU REALLY ARE. IS IT EVER GOOD TO PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING YOU ARE NOT FOR THE SAKE OF A RELATIONSHIP?

Random Questions:
Do you ever tell your mate they suck in bed?
Is it ok to snoop if you feel they are cheating?
What is it about the bad boys that is so damn sexy?
How do you save a failing relationship even if you know that there really is no hope?
Do you take him/her back after they cheated?

VALENTINE'S DAY: Around St. Louis

Valentines Day doesn't have to be about switching gifts. Of course most women get excited around this time because you get flowers, candy, jewelry etc. For me most of that stuff is kind of outdated. I would just as well prefer a nice day just spent with the two of us. Enjoy what St. Louis has to offer with your partner this Valentine's Day

It could start with a simple breakfast in bed. Hopefully everyone can make simple eggs, bacon, sausage, and toast. If not you can easily order takeout from two of St. Louis finest. Which depends on if you want the down home momma's cooking of Goody Goody or the Food Network worthy Kopperman's. It may seem small but I think everyone would appreciate waking up to a hot meal. You could easily make it more intimate by getting back in bed and eating together.


Saturday afternoon will be a perfect time to check out the George Washington Carver exhibit at the Missouri History Museum. The admission is only ten dollars and you and your significant other can spend the afternoon holding hands and taking a walk back in history. If history is not really your thing, you can always go to the St. Louis Art Museum for the African Art Collection.



They say the night time is the right time so why not spend Saturday night with some dancing and drinking at Bar Louie. Located in the Central West End, the bartenders know how to mix a wicked Pomegranate Margarita and the spot is intimate and very cozy. This is a mixed crowd and the DJ plays both sides of music well. We shouldn't have to tell you what to do with the rest of your night.

However, if you are looking for a little bit of spice (do NOT open at work) , you can check things out for yourself.

TONIGHT - LOVE FORUM

Join Jami B., co-host of The Demetrious Johnson Show (HOT 104.1 Sundays 8-10am) and writer for suiteSTL tonight at Nubia Cafe as we discuss LOVE and Relationships in "The Age of Obama."

A Little Bit Of Advice

dateWed, Jan 21, 2009 at 4:58 PM
subject all lost in love because of my stupidity
hi suite,
I'm nervous about writing this because the last girl who sent in that letter you guys tore her a new one. My situation is different from hers though and I really have no clue on what to do. This guy and I started out as high school sweethearts, we met in 10th grade. He was my first and only at the time. When we graduated from high school we went to college together and eventually moved off campus together. Around my 21st bday I started to feel smothered. He and I had been together since I was 16 and he was all I knew. I started wondering if maybe we had moved to fast and I didn't get a chance to experience things other girls my age were doing. I broke up with him and moved back home. He was devastated to say the least, he called and called until he got the picture that I didn't want to be with him anymore. I met this other guy and we hooked up and became a couple I really thought we were in love and he might have been the one, but he started cheating on me. My heart was broken and in a few months he had turned me into a clingy, jealous woman with low self esteem. I started missing my ex something fierce. I contacted his sister and got his new number, she also told me that he had moved on with another girl and they were living together now. After weeks of calling anonymous and hanging up I eventually called and spoke with him. We met up and one thing led to another and the next thing I knew we were crying and having sex. It was the most beautiful experience I have ever been in. I thought we would get back together but he refuses to leave the other girl. He said if I wanted him I would have to just take a piece of him because it was me that walked away. I love him and I know he loves me, but I don't want to be any one's side piece. Do you think if I play this game for a little while he will eventually forget about her and get back with me? Or should I just let a lying dog lay?

First let me start by saying that our disclaimer at the top states that we are not trying to hurt feelings or harm anyone. Now that we got that out of the way I want to say this, and I am not a licensed doctor so I could be wrong. It doesn't sound like that man wants to get back with you. You hurt him deeply it seems from what you are saying and he is trying to hurt you back the same way. I can understand that you felt like you wanted to see more of the world and if you are use to rose colored glasses the real world can break you. You thought that everything you were looking for was somewhere else. That's normal and is completely apart of growing up. It's called living and learning. Don't let that tear you away from the woman you are becoming. I am sure you will find the right man for you. And when you do you will know without a shadow of a doubt. Keep your head up sis, and leave that dog right where he is.

A Bit Of Advice

This morning I opened our email and was surprised to see that someone had sent in a letter with some thoughts that have obviously been on her mind. I have so many things running through my head and I will address her issues but this may be to big for me, she may need advice from a lot of people or probably just a good therapist. Here is the letter

7:32 PM (16 hours ago) Reply

Dear Suite,
I've recently found myself in a crazy situation. I want to talk to my friends but i know they will judge me. I am in a situation that i cant get myself out of. I've known this guy for a while and i really like him. we were just friends but the past year we have become intimate. he makes me smile and makes me feel complete. the problem with the situation is that he is my cousin's boyfriend. i know he and i should not have gone there and i really can't explain how it happened. I was pregnant by him in the summer and i had a miscarriage. my cousin was there with me the whole time rubbing my back and just being there for me. she was pissed that "the father" was not there for me. I hate going to family functions b/c they are together. Sometimes we kind of share a look or something but it makes me feel bad because she is like my best friend too. I really don't want to stop messing with him but I know that if she finds out she will be pissed at me.And don't get me wrong i luv my cousin, but this is the best relationship I ever been in. this is a horrible situation and i just need some sound advice on what to do.

Wow, I don't really know where to start with this. I normally don't like to give advice but since she seems kind of in a desperate situation we will try to help. The fact that he is your cousin's man does make this situation crazy. If I were you I would get out. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine the pain you would feel from a betrayal like this. The thing with love is that you can't help who you love, but you can stop the love. Stay away from him or just come out and tell her so it won't seem like you are being shady. No one can judge you far going there, but I think you are judging yourself because deep down you know that it is wrong.

2008 Hottest Couples #1 President Elect and First Lady Barack and Michelle Obama

There was no way any other couple was going to top this list. When I look at these two together I see love. Real love, not the modern fake manufactured love. The looks that they share on down to fist bump is just who they are. WE got the fist bump, WE understood what it meant, and WE felt proud to have them standing there, clinching the Democratic nomination. I love the fact that they are equally intelligent. Even though I am a tad bit jealous of Michelle's hair I love them. Most definetly "Change WE can believe in". Regardless to Fox News ignorance, Obama and his "baby mamma" (as they so ignorantly called her) are the real deal. No one can argue with it.

TOP 10 REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT

I was sent an email yesterday that I thought was interesting. I could dig a couple of the reasons, not that I condone cheating, but I can understand some of the reasons. However, me personally I think it is better to just leave than cheat, but as a woman I can see how some of these reasons are valid.

10. The relationship isn't THAT serious. In the beginning, you may find yourself in a brand new relationship, you're just dating but you really like the guy but you aren't quite sure if you want to be exclusive, men, you better not take too long to figure it out and seal the deal.

9. They are bored in the relationship. When women get bored with their man they may seek comfort in the arms of a stranger or an old familiar flame.

8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship. Most women want a place to call home, especially a house, they want a marriage or some type of commitment, and eventually, they want to start a family.

7. When he has too much baggage. Psycho ex girlfriends, baby mama drama, ex-wives with too much control, a meddling mother, over-protective siblings, bratty kids and friends that don't know when to go home, will take their toll on a woman.

6. They won't leave something for nothing. When you're just not getting along and you seem to be fighting a lot, fellas beware! Most women won't have a clean break because we need to "get under someone new, to get over someone old."

5. Ok, sometimes it is about the SEX. If a girl is having trouble climaxing, no matter how great of a guy you are, or if you have a mortgage, lease or kids together, she just might stray, depending on how bad it is and how much she really loves you.

4. When things start to go sour. Let's face it, women need a lot of attention. If you forget her birthday, an anniversary, or any other special day or if you skimp out on the other important days like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, New Years Eve or WHATEVER, she will feel unappreciated and that is a major red-light danger zone!

3. If the relationship gets physical, in a bad way. Don't think that you could ever completely control a woman. If you try to use scare tactics, if you hit her, beat her up, or threaten her, she can and will stray at some point.

2. When she doesn't come first in your life. If you put other people before her then she will eventually stray and find herself in bed with a guy that will put her first.

1. Whatever you can do, we can do it better. If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don't think you are in the clear just because she forgave you.Does this sound about right?

I think an honary one should be, SHE DOESN'T FEEL APPRECIATED!!!!! If you can't make me feel like a woman fellas me no likey.

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES #2 DON'T EVEN HAVE TO SAY THEIR NAMES

They perform together, vacation togther, sit court-side together, and even catch up on the latest new and gossip together. But more importanty last year this couple brought in a combined total of $162 million dollars. Beating out top a-listers such as Brad and Angelina and even Will and Jada. They are by far the undisputed king and queen of hip-hop/r&b. You can say what you will about the two apart but you can't deny that together they make one hell of a beast. You know little about the relationship and they love it that way. They decided to tie the knot in a private ceremony this year making their 6 year relationship more solid. Have your way with the comment section, they are still the 2nd hottest couple of the year.

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES # 3 Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith

This couple is one of my all time favorite couples ever. They always seem genuine, loving, and Will knows to be quiet and let Jada run the show. LOL. Just like with Duane and Tisha there has been all kinds of rumors of them swinging with other couples and even the rumor that Will and Duane were more than friends. I seriously doubt that he or Jada would let the other sleep with someone else. They got married in 1997 and according to California's state law she is now entitled to half of his dough if they divorce. I don't think that will happen though, they have a really solid close knit family. This couple as well as their children are on their way to dominate the silver screen. Will is the only actor to have 8 consecutive movies that grossed more than $100 million. They were the number two couple on Forbes top power couples of 2008, only to be beaten by Suitestl's number two hot couple of 2008. Stay tuned for the top two!!

2008 Hottest Couples #4 Angela Basset & Courtney B. Vance

An outstanding actress who is still underrated, Angela has been on the scene for a while. The secret to her great look has to be the love that shares with actor Courtney B. Vance and raising their twins. Whatever the case may be these two make our list because of their solid love and longevity has survived a 11 year marriage in hollywood. They have a wonderful book "Friends A Love Story" that is a must read for everyone and recently shared the screen together as husband and wife on ER.

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES #5 MARY J. AND KENDU

This couple always makes me smile. I feel like I grew up with Mary even though she is older than me, I guess you can call her my big cousin. As with many others I rocked to the heartbroken Mary. When my heart was hurting it was nothing for me to play My Life cd and just let her take my mind to another level. I can shamefully admit that at first I was hesitant to the "happy Mary" but I now know that her and Kendu is most definetly a good thing. Every woman wants to be loved and happy, I am glad that she feels complete now. Ok so some of you have been doubting the list, you can't deny this one right here. I dare you try. Lol!

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES: #6 DUANE MARTIN AND TISHA CAMPBELL

This right here is love. Over a decade and still going. The second picture at the top is during her Martin days. Even though people love to gossip about Duane swinging the other way, Tisha stands by her man. You can't tell her nothing and I don't blame her. So basically she is saying kiss her tail because she knows that her man is all man and the only man for her. I wish them a million more decades together.

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES # 08 Q AND DAWN RICHARDS AND #7 MELINDA WILLIAMS AND D-NICE

I must admit that I am a reality show junkie. Making The Band 4 is a show that I had to watch every Monday. Yeah I could go a lifetime without the extraness that comes from Puff, Diddy, Puffy, Sean, or whatever he goes by these days. However, in watching that show I found a love that I was really interested in. Dawn from Danity Kane and Q from Day 26 love seemed genuine in the midst of all the other scripted stuff. Hopefully they will make it because watching him sing You Are So Beautiful to her brought tears to my eyes.

We all know and love Malinda Williams from various different movies and my all time favorite Soul Food the series. She use to be married to the Mekhi Phifer according to reports he wasn't being a good man, so she got herself a new one. You have to be really young not to know D-Nice. I knew plenty of girls who had a crush on this 90's rapper. He's a D.J. now and the two recently got married. We here at Suite STL do not discriminate, you don't have to be an A-List star, sometimes the sweetest loves are not in the spotlight as much.

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES: # 09 CHRIS BROWN AND RIHANNA

You can't deny it, we have all been here. Nothing like puppy love. The first relationship were you can truly say that you love that person and mean it. I love Chris and Rihanna, they stick to themselves we never see her dancing drunk on top of tables or him in strip clubs throwing stacks of money. Simply put, they are just cute. They work for me. What do you think?

2008 HOTTEST COUPLES: #10 SERENA WILLIAMS AND COMMON

With 2009 vastly approaching, the who's who for 2008 will start popping up left and right. Not to be outdone we here at Suite Stl will be doing various different hottest of 08 lists. Each day we will post hottest couple, song, style, and any other we can think of. We will start the countdown with one of 2008 hottest couples;

When I see this couple together I have to constantly chant to myself "I am not jealous of Serena, I am not jealous". Truthfully though I think this couple is a good look. A couple of years ago Serena was quoted as saying she was done with black men, because of the games they play. Well she must have been dealing with black "boys". There is a huge difference between a man and boy and I am sure Common has helped her realize that.

Good Man vs The Bad Boy

Last night I was thinking about relationships. Not just mine, but different relationships of people that I know and some that I don't know all that well. I read something that a friend of mine wrote about how she is attracted to the bad boys. Most of the women that I know are as well, myself included. The bad boy represents excitement and carries a certain element of danger. As women we always say that we are looking for a "good man". Often we pass him by because we are chasing behind the bad boy. He's only interested on his terms, he's often in another relationship, and great in bed. However, outside of the bedroom you really can't understand what it is you see in him. But yet we find ourselves slightly addicted to him and often find ourselves wondering how did we get into this situation. I thought for countless hours on what is it about these men that attract women. Or is it that the "good man" is doing something to make himself seem less attractive? It really can't be the flowers that he sends you, or the way he holds you as if his life depends on it, and who wouldn't love thoughtful text messages throughout the day just to let you know that you are on his mind. So what is it? My own personal opinion is the weight of knowing that man has put you on a high pedestal is a heavy load to bear. You don't want to disappoint him or let him down in any way. With the bad boy you can just be you, no false pretenses. Although the bad boy can touch, tease, feel, and caress; he can't love you as you should be loved. So what do you do? Go with someone who will make you his everything or follow the guy who is simply your nothing. Although I wrote this with women in mind, I am dying to know what men think about this.

Feel Like A Woman

"Touch Me, Tease Me, Feel Me, and Caress Me"

Just as the Earth has its elements, these are the four major components to feel like a woman. It's possible for some people to look at the words; touch, tease, feel, and caress and consider them kind of the same thing. But any woman who has yearned for that indescribable feeling can dissect these words and present the hidden gem in each.

Touch Me- It's easy for someone to physically touch a body part. But the "touch" that we as women are looking for is the touch of the soul. If done properly, a woman doesn't even realize at first that her other is connecting with her on a spiritual level. Warning ladies: just because you claim you love and can't live without him doesn't mean that he has reached your soul. It's easy to get lust confused with a strong connection.

Tease Me- Everyone loves a tease. The cat and mouse game can be a very seductive tango. Most women love men who seem as if they are doing their own thing. Yes we love flowers and attention, but men shouldn't make themselves so available that they are running at every beckon and call. Warning fellas: I know that some movies and fairy tales make women seem needy and clingy, but trust when I say we want our "me" time to relax and just do us. But remember that being always out of touch is the fastest way to loose that woman.

Feel Me- OK, people can say what they want, but we all know that sex really does matter in a relationship. No one wants to have bad sex, that's not the point of being intimate with someone. The main goal is for everyone to reach that big O. Warning for both sides: when it comes to being felt. Fellas should be less selfish and more into her. Get to know her body and ask what feels good and what doesn't. Yes being a little rough is good sometimes, but remember there are important organs that we need. Ladies some men don't like to make much noise in the bedroom, so you have to watch his body language. Remember what made his spine shutter, or what caused his toes to curl. If it is good to the man, he will reciprocate and make it great for you.

Caress Me- OK the big bang is over and done with. It would be so simple to turn over and fall off to sleep. You're hot, sweaty, and all out of breath. But the key to letting me know that I am all woman and you love and appreciate everything about me, is just simply holding me. I know it sounds so cliche' but you will be amazed what a cuddle could do. Your arms wrapped around me represents security. I don't just want to lay my head on your chest and fall off, I want you to pull me so close that our personal space is combined into one. I want our hearts to beat to the same tune.
I JUST SIMPLY WANT TO FEEL LIKE A WOMAN

Do NOT Disturb

disclaimer: The do not disturb posts are intended for a mature audience only. Meaning if you are not grown and sexy this may not be the spot for you. At times the do not disturb section will be a little more vulgar (but still classy) than others. This is not to offend anyone, so please do not take offense.