A Little Bit Of Advice

dateWed, Jan 21, 2009 at 4:58 PM
subject all lost in love because of my stupidity
hi suite,
I'm nervous about writing this because the last girl who sent in that letter you guys tore her a new one. My situation is different from hers though and I really have no clue on what to do. This guy and I started out as high school sweethearts, we met in 10th grade. He was my first and only at the time. When we graduated from high school we went to college together and eventually moved off campus together. Around my 21st bday I started to feel smothered. He and I had been together since I was 16 and he was all I knew. I started wondering if maybe we had moved to fast and I didn't get a chance to experience things other girls my age were doing. I broke up with him and moved back home. He was devastated to say the least, he called and called until he got the picture that I didn't want to be with him anymore. I met this other guy and we hooked up and became a couple I really thought we were in love and he might have been the one, but he started cheating on me. My heart was broken and in a few months he had turned me into a clingy, jealous woman with low self esteem. I started missing my ex something fierce. I contacted his sister and got his new number, she also told me that he had moved on with another girl and they were living together now. After weeks of calling anonymous and hanging up I eventually called and spoke with him. We met up and one thing led to another and the next thing I knew we were crying and having sex. It was the most beautiful experience I have ever been in. I thought we would get back together but he refuses to leave the other girl. He said if I wanted him I would have to just take a piece of him because it was me that walked away. I love him and I know he loves me, but I don't want to be any one's side piece. Do you think if I play this game for a little while he will eventually forget about her and get back with me? Or should I just let a lying dog lay?

First let me start by saying that our disclaimer at the top states that we are not trying to hurt feelings or harm anyone. Now that we got that out of the way I want to say this, and I am not a licensed doctor so I could be wrong. It doesn't sound like that man wants to get back with you. You hurt him deeply it seems from what you are saying and he is trying to hurt you back the same way. I can understand that you felt like you wanted to see more of the world and if you are use to rose colored glasses the real world can break you. You thought that everything you were looking for was somewhere else. That's normal and is completely apart of growing up. It's called living and learning. Don't let that tear you away from the woman you are becoming. I am sure you will find the right man for you. And when you do you will know without a shadow of a doubt. Keep your head up sis, and leave that dog right where he is.