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I. Love. You. Three simple words that alone have no true meaning. However, say the words together in one sentence and it becomes a powerful statement. Everyone loves to see real true love. A glance between two partners that scream we are the real deal, a fist bump between two that say We dreamt this dream together and We have done it, or even a kiss, although silent it speaks loudly to the masses that love is possible. As I watch the chemistry between President Obama and First Lady Michelle I often wonder what happened to BLACK LOVE?
In my opinion somewhere between the Civil Rights Movement and the rise of drug use, black people lost their sense of love. Being tired of a system that did not work for them a lot of black men turned to drugs, either as users or pushers. Working an honest 9-5 and trying to support a family was very hard. Drugs played a big role in relieving the black man from his normal daily “problems”. Signing up for the drug game is giving your soul over to the dark side. The life gets flashier for the pusher and worry free for the user, raising a family became less important. A lot of black families found themselves being raised without a father in their households. Mothers trying desperately to feed their children and keep shelter over their heads felt their love turn bitter and cold. For reasons known only to the users, a lot of black women turned to crack cocaine. From the few that I know who was/is on the drug stated it was to relieve them of stress also, if you remain high you don’t realize that your life is in shambles and your children are suffering trying to survive. For the first time ever young black kids were raising themselves, if another family member did not step in. As a child growing up in situations like this you vow to never go through it, so u place a sheet of ice over your heart. Hopefully life won't defrost your heart easily and cause you to get hurt repeatedly. Young black men are taught that showing emotions or being affectionate is lame and for men who are weak. Young black girls begin to use their body as a form of receiving love that is not really there. You will often hear the “ I love you” but never the “ I’m in love with you”. That’s the difference with the relationship our President and First Lady have. They are in love with each other, they march to the same beat and sway to the same tune. My question is how can we change this? Is black love not important enough to declare a state of emergency? Is it to late and just a waste of time to try? I sure hope not because unprotected sex now days is just another form of black on black crime. If you knowingly have unprotected sex with multiple people and you don’t know your status or theirs your killing yourself as well as them. Don’t be a part of the problem. If none of this applies to you and you are a decent black man or black woman, then stand up and let it be known that real true love does still exist!
Make your comments below and then lets continue this conversation on Saturday 8:00 - 10:30pm at Nubia Cafe (5860 Delmar) as The City Forum presents THE LOVE FORUM, sponsored by suiteSTL and B. Free Paparazzi
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My husband are I are passionately in love. We have been married for a year and 5 months, and we have a beautiful 20 week old son. We lost our daughter when I was 24 weeks pregnant in 2007. We have known each other for 13 years, but when we first met I thought he was too young for me (he's only 2 yrs younger), although he was mature for his age. He is now 28 and I am 30. We spend the majority of our time together as a family, aside from when we are both at work. Some people feel we need to give each other space, but we believe once you are married, there isn't too many things you should be doing without each other. He is a young black man, strong, beautiful, son, husband, father, hardworking, mature and very loving and caring. I'm so glad I ran into him again, when I did 3 years ago. Somehow I know we were meant to be. And although I know we haven't been married that long, we are both willing to do whatever to keep and save our love and our family. Black love is still out there, and does exist. Although it is very rare nowadays. I have so many sisters, friends & co-workers who are still searching and who are envious of our love. Don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs, as many couples do, but people know true love when they see it. I pray that every woman can experience they type of true love my husband and I have. We all deserve it.
love is a waste of time, it is only designed to break you. i have had more than enough of heartbreaks and heartaches, i am devoting myself to God right now.
I LOVE THE POST......I KNW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO LOVE AND 2 BE LOVED BUT THAT SAME LOVE ALSO SHOWED ME WHAT HEARTACHE FEELS LIKE SO WAS IT REALLY LOVE IF IS CAUSED HEARTACHE? LOVE IS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND.... SO WITH THAT BEING SAID I DNT THINK BLACK LOVE IS DEAD I THINK IT IS JUST REALLY REALLY HARD TO FIND AS WOMEN WE JUST HVE TO LEARN HOW TO PUT THE HEARTACHES BEHIND US AN NOT ALLOW IT TO MAKE US BITTER OTHER WISE WE WILL MISS OUT ON TRUE LOVE.... EVERYONE DESERVES REAL TRUE LOVE AND I THNK WE ALL WILL EXPERIENCE IT AT LEAST ONCE IN OUR LIVES.....
MRS. COLLINS AS A WOMAN IT MAKES ME HAPPY TO SEE ANOTHER WOMAN REALLY HAPPY IN HER MARRIAGE I WISH U ALL THE HAPPINESS UR HEART CAN HOLD!!!!!
QUEEN....GOD WILL SEND YOU TRUE LOVE!!!
Love hurts and feels so good
It seems like no one believes in monogamy anymore, all of this sleeping around and bringing back diseases is scary. I don't have time to show a boy how to be a man either.
I disagree that black love has gotten worse. It has always been fucked up since slavery. We have always been detached from our children as men. We are just learning how to love. So i disagreee with things being peachy before civil rights because men were definitely cheating and having children out of wedlock then it was just that stuck around more
CYA when it comes to LUV! LOL! LUV, in the black community!? What a joke... Black men & women aren't ready in my eyes its a tempoary thing... Pay attention to the way i spelled it...LUV! Now think about... What is LUV? My generation made this word we kno as a 4 letter word into a 3 letter word...
Diggame you can't blame the lack of men being around their children on slavery. Think about how the woman felt she carried that child for nine whole months, ppl down play a woman having a baby like it is no big deal but think about it, the woman has to nurture and care for that child before it even takes it first breath of air in this world. The bond that is created during that nine months is incredible, now imagine that woman being pregnant 5 or 6 times and she has to watch the slave master tear that child from her arms and sell him/her down the river!!!!! Women still didnt run because of what happened to their ancestors. In the post the Suite stated that the women they knew said they done it for selfish reasons not because something that happened to their ancestors. Black Men need to "man up" and confess that they rather chase a fat ass instead of a woman who will be there for them and have their back, almost become a second mother to that man because she is now taking care of all his needs. I can't and I won't on this subject today. Love takes up to much emotional space
"almost become a second mother" ??
What is good with that ?
Why do we have to play that role ?
It should be two independant individuals in a relationship.
Always remember God has a reason and a plan for everything. Everything happens in its own season. When we go thru things in life, its God's way of pulling us back to him, because we fell off track. He also wants you to use that pain and that experience to share it with others going thru a similar situation. Just b/c you haven't experienced it yet, doesn't mean you won't. You have to seek him first and everything else will follow. I know its VERY hard, with soooo many temptations out there. But its the only way, you will ever be truly blessed. Ladies stop accepting any and everything from these brothers, just b/c he is your baby daddy or you feel you can't get anybody else, or ya'll been together for so long. Start holding these men accountable for their actions. Ladies be a better example to your kids and younger siblings. Stop bringing every man you date around your children, spending the night and watching your babies b/c you're intimate with them. Your children are our future, and they will do as they see, not as you say. True love does exist, but you will miss out on your blessings if you don't look in the right places. Seek God Wholeheartedly!
FIRST I WANT TO TAKE THE TIME TO THANK EVERYONE FOR WEIGHIN IN ON THIS TOPIC, LOVE IS ALWAYS TRICKY AND IS NEVER THE SAME FOR EVERYONE. I DO BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS OUT THERE AND THAT IT EXISTS, THE PROBLEM IS THAT THE LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE IS SO VERY THIN. IT'S HARD TO BE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE AS WELL AS BE IN HATE WITH THEM. LOVE AND HATE, ALTHOUGH DIFFERENT, THE PASSION THAT PPL FEEL WHETHER IT IS LOVE OR HATE IS VERY STRONG. MY LIL SISTER TEXTED ME THE OTHER DAY (SHE IS 18) AND HER SIGNATURE ON THE TEXT READ "LOVE=LMAO". I ASKED HER WHO BROKE HER HEART AND SHE SAID NO ONE, SHE WILL NEVER GET CLOSE ENOUGH TO LET HER HEART GET BROKEN. I WAS THINKING DAMN! WHAT IS THE WORLD COMING TO WHEN LITTLE GIRLS DONT DREAM OF MEETING A PRINCE AND THEN GET MARRIED. AS A CHILD I HAD MY WEDDING PLANNED OUT DOWN TO THE SMALLEST DETAILS. I HAVE EXPERIENCED THE GOOD IN LOVE AND THE BAD, ALTHOUGH AT TIMES I MAY SEEM BITTER, I STILL BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS REAL AND IT WILL COME WHEN GOD SAYS "IT'S TIME" TWO SIMPLE WORDS THAT I KNOW HE WILL WHISPER TO ME AND MY LOVE. - CRYSSRENEE
I wasnt going to comment because I feel this topic is sooo I would say generic. Most people dont know what love is and that was the case with me. I could not love and didnt know what it was or what it means to love. So I learned first and foremost to love GOD and commit to him, trust him, believe in him and that was hard because you could not see him. That laid my foundation. what is love you cant base it from movies, songs or books what we as people are use to doing 1 Corinhians 13:4 explained it to me. This is opposite of what the world views as love. Most people say if you love me you will be commited to me. Yes and no. If you love yourself and love God i will be commited to me, God and us. It took me 31 years to know and become grown enough to love.
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